cynthiaschemmer:

Last week at LAVA Space in West Philly, I played a solo set (with a project I have yet to name) with Trophy Wife, Ragana, Margy Pepper, and Bike Crash. All the bands were loud and strong and incredible, and for the first time, maybe ever, that’s how I felt about my solo set, too. 
I spent a really long time telling myself that playing solo, or rather, wanting to play my own songs with other people, was a selfish act. I felt that I shouldn’t expect others to want to play the songs I wrote and that by not working completely collectively, I was doing something wrong. Of course, this just isn’t true, but this is how I was raised and so what I believed. I played in Very Okay in which I wrote most of the songs, but I always felt a strong sense of uncomfortable mobility, due to my own self-consciousnesses of being a mid-twenty-something. Now, about to turn 30 in a month, this guilt and fear that often pervades many aspects of my life is dissipating, and I am finally ready to do things my way. 
I play guitar in Radiator Hospital in which Sam is the sole song writer and main force, and I love playing in that band. Sam is amazing. He shows us the songs, which are always rockers, and lets us write our own parts. We are still contributing, and that’s what makes it so fun. This is the way to do it. This is the way a lot of my friends do it, and yet and I never once thought they were being selfish. It only applied to me. 
Heavy Bangs broke up recently because two of our members are moving to the West Coast for school and work. It made me sad, of course, because I loved where that band was going musically, but I am excited to have the opportunity to push myself forward onto the next thing. If I don’t write and record these songs, no one else will.
Next step: find folks to play with. Or not. Just keep going. 



i think I know exactly what you’re talking about. Or an idea of what you’re talking about. I’ve been trying to do the band that is not these fucking dragons since 2010 (basically when my marriage broke up, cause I needed to write songs about it) and it wasn’t until last fall I got it kind of together. I had the added problem of not being able to play guitar (seriously, that shit is so small! I can’t make myself do anything that difficult) and figuring out if I could really expect anyone to listen to me mangle chords on my bass. I play with a drummer now (who had to be one of my best friends because I am so freaking shy/social anxiety disordered), and I feel weird about how much of the songs I wrote without him. That’s changing as we write more songs, but, yeah, I don’t know, it’s weird. i haven’t really written whole songs since my first band in the 90’s, I always kind of thought of myself as a sidekick. who am I that people should pay attention to me?

Maybe it’s not the same, but what you wrote resonated with me.

cynthiaschemmer:

Last week at LAVA Space in West Philly, I played a solo set (with a project I have yet to name) with Trophy Wife, Ragana, Margy Pepper, and Bike Crash. All the bands were loud and strong and incredible, and for the first time, maybe ever, that’s how I felt about my solo set, too. 

I spent a really long time telling myself that playing solo, or rather, wanting to play my own songs with other people, was a selfish act. I felt that I shouldn’t expect others to want to play the songs I wrote and that by not working completely collectively, I was doing something wrong. Of course, this just isn’t true, but this is how I was raised and so what I believed. I played in Very Okay in which I wrote most of the songs, but I always felt a strong sense of uncomfortable mobility, due to my own self-consciousnesses of being a mid-twenty-something. Now, about to turn 30 in a month, this guilt and fear that often pervades many aspects of my life is dissipating, and I am finally ready to do things my way. 

I play guitar in Radiator Hospital in which Sam is the sole song writer and main force, and I love playing in that band. Sam is amazing. He shows us the songs, which are always rockers, and lets us write our own parts. We are still contributing, and that’s what makes it so fun. This is the way to do it. This is the way a lot of my friends do it, and yet and I never once thought they were being selfish. It only applied to me. 

Heavy Bangs broke up recently because two of our members are moving to the West Coast for school and work. It made me sad, of course, because I loved where that band was going musically, but I am excited to have the opportunity to push myself forward onto the next thing. If I don’t write and record these songs, no one else will.

Next step: find folks to play with. Or not. Just keep going. 

i think I know exactly what you’re talking about. Or an idea of what you’re talking about. I’ve been trying to do the band that is not these fucking dragons since 2010 (basically when my marriage broke up, cause I needed to write songs about it) and it wasn’t until last fall I got it kind of together. I had the added problem of not being able to play guitar (seriously, that shit is so small! I can’t make myself do anything that difficult) and figuring out if I could really expect anyone to listen to me mangle chords on my bass. I play with a drummer now (who had to be one of my best friends because I am so freaking shy/social anxiety disordered), and I feel weird about how much of the songs I wrote without him. That’s changing as we write more songs, but, yeah, I don’t know, it’s weird. i haven’t really written whole songs since my first band in the 90’s, I always kind of thought of myself as a sidekick. who am I that people should pay attention to me? Maybe it’s not the same, but what you wrote resonated with me.
parlorcitypunk:

TFD.  #thesefuckingdragons #16walnut  (at 16 Walnut Binghamton, NY)

itsa me! and Phillip!

parlorcitypunk:

TFD. #thesefuckingdragons #16walnut (at 16 Walnut Binghamton, NY)

itsa me! and Phillip!

ambidextrously-erotic:

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heyepiphora:

Smitten Kitten has a new jar of toxic sex toy horrors! It’s only four days old and the toys are already oozing an oily film onto each other. (P.S. I love the subtle “Doc J" in the corner of that photo, guys.) I’ll be watching the badvibes tag on Tumblr with a morbid fascination…

Edit for all y’all reblogging this and crying “of course they’re melting! They aren’t supposed to touch!”: One, they aren’t melting in this photo. They are developing a layer of oily film (which, if you watch the video, you’ll see that one already had it straight out of the package). Is that not repulsive? Does it not disgust you that the toys all smelled horrible and gave these two people headaches? IT SHOULD. THESE ARE THINGS THAT ARE MADE TO TOUCH MUCOUS MEMBRANES.

Two, while they will eventually melt together, true 100% silicone dildos WILL NOT. That is a myth. Body-safe sex toys do not contain active molecules that off-gas, degrade, and melt. Because they are body-safe. Stop making excuses for toxic, shitty sex toys.

PLEASE, READ THIS.

Important information kids.

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Anonymous asked: Isn't it a little weird that a one-on-one marriage is taken as a default, privileged state? I mean, a lot of these "polyamorous" people are being assholes because it's clear from the asks that this is making at least one of the people involved in the relationship uncomfortable. But are we discounting "non-traditional marriages" or relationships as having value here?

yoshouldidumpthisahole:

We are not discounting non-traditional relationships. If you have an agreement with your partner that allows for polyamorous or other non-traditional relations, that is chill. What is not chill is when two people enter what is believed to be a monogamous relationship, and one of them goes off and hooks up with someone else. That is a very unchill super asshole move that is a betrayal of trust in the relationship.

I agree with this except, sometimes people assume they’re relationship is monogamous, even after only a few dates. that’s a different situation I guess, but it is considered a default by lots of people.

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Today in history: March 25, 1911 - The Triangle Shirtwaist Fire. 
A fire in lower Manhattan kills 146 women workers, mostly immigrants, at the Triangle Shirtwaist factory. The tragedy highlights the criminally dangerous conditions under which the they were forced to work. The fire became a rallying cry for unions and caused an outpouring of support for the workers and for improving working conditions. 
(image from Pro Labor Alliance Inc.)
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fuckyeahmarxismleninism:

Today in history: March 25, 1911 - The Triangle Shirtwaist Fire.

A fire in lower Manhattan kills 146 women workers, mostly immigrants, at the Triangle Shirtwaist factory. The tragedy highlights the criminally dangerous conditions under which the they were forced to work. The fire became a rallying cry for unions and caused an outpouring of support for the workers and for improving working conditions.

(image from Pro Labor Alliance Inc.)

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"Gum massager…"

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