further, on moshing
you know, i don’t think moshing is sexist. i think that a lot of people who mosh are sexist. i think a lot of people who feel entitled to take up so much space with violence are sexist. but some just feel entitled. maybe cause they’re white. maybe because they are men. sometimes because in some way (or some alternate reality) -they- are the underdog with no power, so this small bit of entitlement is all they’ve got. like the ‘punk’ boys yelling at the ‘preppy’ girls with sexual innuendo, because they think cause they are the ‘victimized’ outcasts and those girls are what they perceive as popular, in crowd types, their harrassment is deserved and ok.
but i digress.
what moshing actually is: stupid. selfish. fucking annoying.
yeah, you, dumbass. you are a selfish asshole. and you’re probably less offended if i call you that than if i call you sexist.
another digression: they say the worst thing you can call a white person, the thing that will offend them the most, it isn’t honky or cracker. those words hold no power over white folks. no, the worst thing you can call a white person is racist. you call a white person a racist and they and a bunch of other people will -jump- to explain how unracist they are. it doesn’t matter anymore what actually happened or who was actually hurt. the argument becomes semantic.
so similarly, calling men ‘sexist’ is considered some kind of intense insult. well suck it up, boys. you might be sexist. and you know what? it’s o fucking k. it doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person who needs to be smited (smote?) from the earth. but if you are -unapologetically- sexist, you can lick my crusty fucking cunt rag. if your knee jerk reaction to someone pointing out something your doing -might- stem from a patriarchal world view is to say ‘no way!’ instead of, ‘huh, let me consider this new thing you’ve mentioned to me.’ you are simply being an ass. an entitled ass.
so lets get to the real meat of this moshing thing:
what about moshing is ‘right’ at a show. why do you think that your moshing should be expected? why is it ok? what about you and your desires trumps me and mine?
why do you feel entitled to the space just in front of the band? why do you feel entitled to the space in which 6 people could comfortably dance? what about music makes you feel like hitting people (or shoving them, if you draw a line)?
why do you think moshing is the ultimate expression of enthusiasm for a song? again, why do you think that expression needs to happen right in front of the fucking band? you aren’t watching them. you can’t see them.
anyway, i don’t care if it’s sexist. i don’t care if girls mosh too, or mosh harder or if small people love moshing. you are selfish. you are a selfish asshole, just like every selfish asshole you have ever complained about in your life. you are THE selfish asshole at every show you attend.
i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again, learn to fucking dance. it isn’t hard. you don’t have to look sexy doing it. feel the music, not your pent up rage. and if you must shove eachother at a show, take it to the empty space at the back. or outside. no one is using that space.
consideration for others is punk fucking rock.
full disclosure: i’ve never moshed. i’ve never moshed because if you shove me, i am going to want to fight you. because wanting to fight you is the natural reaction to being shoved. now, you can kick my ass, no doubt. i’m an old lady. but i’ll still try to fucking fight you. because you don’t just fucking shove people. what the fuck?
